You A Hating Ass Nigga

By El Che
The Exterminator
The Exterminator

What’s the difference between what we now refer to as “hating” and legitimate constructive criticism? Is it hating when Al Sharpton protests against the vulgarity in hip-hop culture and its effects on our children? Or is it constructive criticism when Barack Obama suggests that black men need to do a better job of being fathers to our children? Are you a hater if a friend of yours is in a relationship and after witnessing their partner act inappropriate you go on a campaign to end their relationship? Or are you just being a concerned friend? Over the last 10 years, the word “hater,” has been in a tug-of-war between those who want to justify ignorance without explanation, and those who are unfairly labeled for no other reason than another person’s insecurity.

Constructive criticism is when someone openly and honestly points out or suggests a better way of approaching a situation or issue. Constructive criticism has within it a degree of humility, empathy, and appreciation for the individual or issue. It is not a pointless rant nor is it personal in nature and constructive criticism is usually backed up by some form of action. Hating, is an emotional response prompted by feelings of insecurity, loneliness and anger, and it is usually a desperate cry for attention. There is no goal or lesson in hating. It is simply intended for the destruction of another person, idea or action. People who practice the art of “hating,” are glamorized in rap songs, propped up and made to feel empowered in their foolishness.  Ultimately the saddest thing about a hater, is that if they spent as much time being active in their communities, taking care of their families, and spiritually nurturing themselves, the energy they use could change the world. Have you ever been hated on by someone? Did you notice that the person who was guilty of the behavior never did it to your face? Haters are like rats that operate in the darkness – virally, through word of mouth and rumors. As soon as you see them face-to-face, they scurry away. But the damage they cause while minor, can become annoying. They chew holes, leave shit droppings, and steal. Pests can only be ignored for so long before they have to be exterminated. Haters are disgusting.

I’ve chosen to accept constructive criticism because I’ve realized how it can improve my productivity and overall quality of life. But when it comes to haters, there is nothing I can do about these rats until I know where they are hidden. So in the meantime, all I can do is set the traps. Let me know how ya’ll handle haters.

Filed in: Uncategorized • Wednesday, August 19th, 2009

Comments

By Dominque aka AHLOT on August 19th, 2009 at 2:35 pm

“I’ve chosen to accept constructive criticism because I’ve realized how it can improve my productivity and overall quality of life.”

Dope. Word. I handle “haters” by moving forward and achieving the unthinkable. You have to keep on moving and understand your mission, goals and purpose and shape them into shapes of love an kindness. If you know who you are, nothing can stop you. :-)

Be an example of love. Paz!

Stay inspired.

By Lee from the LOWEND on August 19th, 2009 at 3:08 pm

This is a great topic!!!
i have a 17yr old daughter and i drive her and her friends around. i let them control the radio. so when Gucci man or O.J. come on i say i don’t like that shit.. they in return tell me “stop hating”, i never knew me having an opinion is considered hating!so i explained to them you can’t like everything in the world. you are entitled to think for yourself just cause someone says “if you don’t like it you must be a hater” doesn’t make them right..
to purposely cause or want to see someone do bad is hating….. i deal with haters like i deal with a traffic jam . i avoid um and go another route.

Just focusing on the label of a hater and how misused it is these days…
I’m glad someone from within the hip-hop industry brought this up. For years now people would use the word ‘hater’ as a trump card in an argument. Look at comments on YouTube, for example – if you say you don’t like T-Pain’s new autotuned track, his fans will label you a hater and that’s that. I was reading a blog on the state of hip-hop in Australia/NZ recently and any criticism was considered ‘hating’ even if the ‘hater-accused’ provided legit evidence of why they criticised an artist or the whole genre.

I think if you criticise something/someone and can provide a solution, ideas or ways to alleviate the issue – that can’t be called hating…that existed before the word hating was born. I appreciate constructive criticism more than if someone just says “good work, keep it up” even if they see flaws in something I work on. Real friends should criticise with good intent.

On the other hand, some people do just plain ‘hate’ on others and other people’s work, effort and success. I handle those by ignoring it and sometimes even feeding off their frustration at my success (Am relating this to work, academic achievements etc.).

This is an excellent post.

*thumbs up*

It all depends. Some haters, it’s no reasoning, debating, or anything that you can do, they will continue to hate because they enjoy, i.e. bryon crawford.

I say try having a hater convention, like these town hall meetings and let them express their fustrations face to face. But unlike most of these democrats, I don’t think you will let them punk you.

GOOD ARTICLE,VERY WELL WRITTEN.
QUESTION:IF IM A RAPPER AND ANOTHER RAPPER CALLS ME “WACK”,AM I A HATER FOR DEFENDING MY ARTISTRY?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=98tTwRvQuPI

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kR8-VW6MIcE

I think that the relationship between the person giving advice, and the person receiving the advice, is really important.

EVERYONE dislikes more music than they like, it’s just about the context in which you express it.

Anyway, I have great news for you personally ladies! John Eight:36 says, “So when the Son has set you free, you will end up free indeed.Inch God has created many of us in so many special ways. How uninteresting it would be if just about all Pastor’s and their wives looked alike, acted as well, and did everthing as well? Let me tell you a little story. In the beginning of my husband and I’s journey directly into full time ministry, we were asked to a regional conference of the officers of a certain denomination.I attempted to bring your pet out here to call home with me and my boyfriend ( who in addition loves children, and wishes to raise mine just like his own) about 21 days ago and it would be a total failure. We felt I was prepared for this, I sensed I wanted to be his / her mother. However, getting him here even for the short amount of time i did all the feelings of depression went back.

 

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Che Smith is a revolutionary artist, writer, and activist. Popularly known as Rhymefest, the South Side Chicago native has been a trailblazer in music, television, and politics.