Comments on: True Gender Roles

By: El Che

El Che — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 23:09:23 +0000

DJ Hayes – I have to respectfully disagree with this anaylsis. Sometimes dating multiple people stifles a potential budding relationship. In fact, in the olden days our grandparents had chaperones on their dates, so even if they dated multiple people, there was no kissing and heavy petting, which is far removed from today’s dates. I’m not saying that some people may not find happiness in more than one partner, however, jealousy has been with us since the beginning of time and I don’t know that being open about multiple partners lessens the blow, it just exposes it and perhaps makes it more manageable. If you really want to talk about how grandpa did it, he had a secret family down the hill that grandma knew about and gave him hell about every other month. holla!

By: D.J. Hayes

D.J. Hayes — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 19:50:36 +0000

The main difference between our generation and that of of grandparents is the method we go about dating in. Most of the people I know refuse to actually “date” multiple people at the same time as our grandparents did. They feel that it makes you unfaithful and exudes promiscuity, but in all honesty, it helps you to determine whether or not someone is right for you by comparing them to other people you’re currently seeing. I’m not saying to have multiple serious partners, but the old school style of dating and eliminating in a casual manner until things get serious with one person is good for relationships. Once I find a girl who makes the rest seem obsolete, I know I’ve got a connection that will last. And women should do the same thing. If everyone could date multiple people openly, jealousy would be reduced, and our genders would be a lot more trusting towards one another in virtually every aspect.

By: Justin B. Jones

Justin B. Jones — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 17:53:38 +0000

I feel like this article is a bit of a step back. While I can acknowledge, as you’ve said, that our grandparents generation showed that this is a legitimate way for a family to function, we have to compensate and adjust for the fact that we’re not living in our grandparent’s world. There’s nothing natural about gender.
There are a lot of sisters out here doing great things with their lives and for their communities without the financial support of any man and it would seem counterproductive to ask them downplay their accomplishments in order to make their man feel needed as a provider. The key is just figuring out what works for your situation instead of holding your relationship and your family to some standard that we all believe we should live by. That mode of thinking creates all sorts of insecurities that just aren’t productive to making your situation work.

By: Johnny

Johnny — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 16:35:09 +0000

Women + Man is the strongest bond in the universe. That’s why they call families nuclear. It’s all physics yall.

By: Bruce Wheyn

Bruce Wheyn — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 16:17:06 +0000

Well said bro…i think the being honest part is for both sides and the fact through the differences communication will forever be the key, a man needs to be able get over certain things and talk to his woman and a woman needs to actually let a man be the man in the relationship and not just be all i doing what i want cause i want to do it. Plus some women need to learn that attitude doesn’t mean that you being strong.

By: Mina Jasarevic

Mina Jasarevic — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 16:10:30 +0000

This is a good article.

I’m surprised you’re not participating in my new piece on the usage of the word “bitch” in Hip Hop. Completely gender-related.

By: She Hate Me

She Hate Me — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 16:06:21 +0000

Very well written.

I’m passing this on to everybody I know.

The knowledge needs to be spread.

By: Freedom

Freedom — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 15:58:19 +0000

This was very well said. I agree that we have lost touch with the gender-based qualities that make us unique and valuable.

By: Meek

Meek — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 15:41:03 +0000

The miracle of companionship is one whole man and one whole woman combining to create one successful union, NOT a man with half his life figured out seeking a woman to complete his other half and trying to make a whole pie. As long as the two can advance each others life mentally, physically, spiritually, and emotionally then there is a purpose to their relationship. If any area is lacking treachery ensues. That’s why I’m not married LOL!

By: Eric

Eric — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 14:45:27 +0000

Wise words